Why I grew them?
well it was my childhood fantasy to look like Arjun Rampal 🙂 So what if I did not look that handsome.I could grow hair as long as his. Then came Rockstar ( the movie ) and this time I wanted my hair that long. 🙂
Why not ever before?
Parents,siblings,beloved,friends, the society as a whole.. Someone always had something to say when they would see my hair a little longer than usual and instigate me to change my mind.
How long will I keep them?
Till my learning is over.till I am sure, I will follow religiously what i have learnt from my guru.
Learn?? !! You kidding me??You got a guru who asked you to grow hair?
No.I ain’t! 🙂
You learnt??What did you learn growing your hair this long?
I learnt :
Patience-it takes a lot of it while drying them rubbing with the towel everyday after taking a bath and then untangling them with comb.And I find,I am being more patient toward everyone and everything,rather than reacting in anger or frustration.Helps developing relationship.
Control on Anger- trust me!anger exploded initially, after I would come out from bath.5 mins and above rubbing the towel on my head and then combing the hair for good 10 mins to untangle.Choice was simple- either I quit or do this everyday.I chose the second and once I stopped being frustrated and angry,I started taking lesser time drying my hair and then untangling and combing them.Slowly,I applied controlling anger with people around and rather apply brains and get things done faster.It works miracles.
Concentration– that’s something I learnt only recently.Taming your wet hair everyday from drying them to slowly untangling and then back-brushing takes 100 percent concentration.You just cannot do without it if you really want to save time and peace of mind and bit of knotted-hair which you would ideally intend plucking off,every time you comb.I somehow,noticed I have developed the ability to concentrate at whatever I am doing any given moment.This is giving me better output everywhere.
Discipline-I am lot more disciplined now.No more getting ready in haste.I know my hair would take time hence I pre-schedule my bathing time and accordingly everything else.Slowly, I have realized I love being disciplined , on time, and proper. With long hair,you just cannot take things casual.No more,just a boy who can put a pair of jeans and t-shirt on and spray the deodorant around put the shoes on and leave,anytime!
Sense of Achievement-Some compliment,some call me a rockstar, some also stare and many have an issue(as i mentioned in my previous post) but I feel I have achieved what I wanted to since childhood.How many times,I had to give up on my wish because of social norms which is inspired by the Brits.Two years of not getting a hair cut done simply means” when you gotta go… you gotta go !! ” 🙂
Self Respect-I respect myself for being able to do what I always wanted to despite unhealthy criticisms. It means I can do bigger and better things whenever I want to.And now,I know how to do so. Sky is the limit.
Respect for others– I don’t make fun of people who have differently trimmed beard or hairstyle or have nose or lips pierced or tattooed,anymore.I learnt,they had the guts to break unwanted social rules which seem to have restricted ‘gentleman-ship’ in attire and accessories.But its within.Shirt and Trousers,short haircut or pierced ears and tattooed hands don’t define how gentle or wild a man is. These are just: statement of lifestyle-my life my style.
I have got the Guru-By the blessings of my long hair- the guru 🙂 ,I have evolved as a person who can take healthy criticism and avoid unhealthy ones without getting angry.I am at peace with myself and I have a sense of belief that what I want , I can make happen. I have learnt respecting human beings around,no matter,how different they look,behave or believe.My love for my country’s culture,fashion and style-sense pre – East India Company has doubled, when men had long hair and wore ornaments like women and were lot more gentle than the ones in trousers and shirts working for our x-masters. 🙂
what about beard ?
They are just to compliment the long hair!Not everyone will read this post.Some may seriously consider me a man with odd preferences. I am straight! 🙂
Why I grew them?