Long Hair-My Guru!

Why Iย grew them?
well it was my childhood fantasy to look like Arjun Rampal ๐Ÿ™‚ So what if I did not look that handsome.I could grow hair as long as his. Then came Rockstar ( the movie ) and this time I wanted my hair that long. ๐Ÿ™‚
Why not ever before?
Parents,siblings,beloved,friends, the society as a whole.. Someone always had something to say when they would see my hair a little longer than usual and instigate me to change my mind.
How long will Iย keep them?
Till my learning is over.till I am sure, I will follow religiously what i have learnt from my guru.
Learn?? !! You kidding me??You got a guru who asked you to grow hair?
No.I ain’t! ๐Ÿ™‚
You learnt??What did you learn growing your hair this long?
I learnt :

Patience-it takes a lot of it while drying them rubbing with the towel everyday after taking a bath and then untangling them with comb.And I find,I am being more patient toward everyone and everything,rather than reacting in anger or frustration.Helps developing relationship.

Control on Anger- trust me!anger exploded initially, after I would come out from bath.5 mins and above rubbing the towel on my head and then combing the hair for good 10 mins to untangle.Choice was simple- either I quit or do this everyday.I chose the second and once I stopped being frustrated and angry,I started taking lesser time drying my hair and then untangling and combing them.Slowly,I applied controlling anger with people around and rather apply brains and get things done faster.It works miracles.

Concentration– that’s something I learnt only recently.Taming your wet hair everyday from drying them to slowly untangling and then back-brushing takes 100 percent concentration.You just cannot do without it if you really want to save time and peace of mind and bit of knotted-hair which you would ideally intend plucking off,every time you comb.I somehow,noticed I have developed the ability to concentrate at whatever I am doing any given moment.This is giving ย me better output everywhere.

Discipline-I am lot more disciplined now.No more getting ready in haste.I know my hair would take time hence I pre-schedule my bathing time and accordingly everything else.Slowly, I have realized I love being disciplined , on time, and proper. With long hair,you just cannot take things casual.No more,just a boy who can put a pair of jeans and t-shirt on and spray the deodorant around putย the shoes on and leave,anytime!

Sense of Achievement-Some compliment,some call me a rockstar, some also stare and many have an issue(as i mentioned in my previous post) but I feel I have achieved what I wanted to since childhood.How many times,I had to give up on my wish because of social norms which is inspired by the Brits.Two years of not getting a hair cut done simply means” when you gotta go… you gotta go !! ” ย ๐Ÿ™‚

Self Respect-I respect myself for being able to do what I always wanted to despite unhealthy criticisms. It means I can do bigger and better things whenever I want to.And now,I know how to do so. Sky is the limit.

Respect for others– I don’t make fun of people who have differently trimmed beard or hairstyle or have nose or lips pierced or tattooed,anymore.I learnt,they had the guts to break unwanted social rules which seem to have restricted ‘gentleman-ship’ in attire and accessories.But its within.Shirt and Trousers,short haircut or pierced ears and tattooedย hands don’t define how gentle or wild a man is. These are just:ย statement of lifestyle-my life my style.

I have got the Guru-By the blessings of my long hair- the guruย  ๐Ÿ™‚ ย ,I have evolved as a person who can take healthy criticism and avoid unhealthy ones without getting angry.I am at peace with myself and I have a sense of belief that what I want , I can make happen. I have learnt respecting human beings around,no matter,how different they look,behave or believe.My love for my country’s culture,fashion and style-sense pre – East India Company has doubled, when men had long hair and wore ornaments like women and were lot more gentle than the ones in trousers and shirts working for our x-masters. ๐Ÿ™‚

what about beard ?

They are just to compliment the long hair!Not everyone will read this post.Some may seriously consider me a man with odd preferences. I am straight! ๐Ÿ™‚

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132 responses on “Long Hair-My Guru!

  1. Bushra

    Kya likha hai yaar *seeeeeeeeeeeeti* If growing long hair develops so many good qualities than i think each n every man should start growing thier hair! ๐Ÿ™‚ Kuddos to u n ur Guruji! Inspired yet again! ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. My Say

      Well.. wisdom costs !! Seeking knowledge means salvation of a kind … after bearing odds is what makes one stronger within ๐Ÿ™‚ I need to know God before I die ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ˜‰

  2. Geetashree Chatterjee

    Well if all men thought like you Ram Rajya would again be instituted in our Bharat Mahaan sooner!!! And as per your post, which is unique and needless to say, excellent, all mod women are losing on patience, discipline, anger management, self-control, self esteem and all such invaluable virtues because of their increasingly shorter hair!!! Food for introspection…

    1. My Say

      Thanks for liking the post ๐Ÿ™‚ Glad,I am ! Its true , that men and even woman of the age are turning rough , angry and arrogant .. guess none has that peace of mind.. it is a rat race .. but I am on a trip to earth .. till the visa expires I will not waste time trying to do everything .. will rather walk as tourist .. financed by God .. enjoying every breath to the fullest. Had i not grown them so long .. I would not have realized .. I am just tourist and my job is to explore , learn, share , enjoy , in whatever I do …till my visa expires.There is no race where I need to participate .. i better be the audience who blissfully enjoys the game going on ๐Ÿ™‚

      1. Geetashree Chatterjee

        I intended a jovial repartee and you’ve taken it to another level. And what is all this about being a tourist and expiry of visa ? Well you made me guilty and sad at the same time. Now I shall make you listen to a song which will change the atmosphere….it may or may not have any link with the post

  3. Harsha

    Jack Mere bhai..tune to aankhon mein aansu la diye….;)
    Pata nahi tere jaise nanhi jaan ne kitne zulm sahi iss duniya se bas baal badhane ke khatir…Jai ho JACK ji aur aapke GURU ji..

    1. My Say

      mere dost … ye baal badhana nahi aasaaan .. but itna samajh lije .. ke India ka British inspired norm hai .. aur usey tod ke dikhana hai ๐Ÿ˜€ wah wah wah !! ๐Ÿ˜‰

        1. My Say

          tu to mujhe replace karliya hai blogging ki duniya mei .. hahaha..jaha jata hu tere comments mujhse pehle hote hain !! hahaha..
          acchi baat hai… mujhe bhi thoda rest chahiye tha ๐Ÿ˜€
          par dekh bhai..agar logon ko tere comment ki aadat hogayi … it will give you a tougher time .. ๐Ÿ™‚ promoting yours if you stop commenting even for a while ๐Ÿ™‚
          Friendly advice hai ๐Ÿ™‚

          1. Harsha

            Arey yaar kya karu …Office mein bhi kaam nahi rehta hai na…tympass karte rehta hun….
            Aur Guru to aap hi hai…Aapke h nakshe kadam pe chal raha hun…Aur agar mein comment karna bandh bhi kar diya to tera blog hai na mere blog ke promote ke liye.. :-P…Bas tu mera blog visit karna chod mat dena…

          2. My Say

            ๐Ÿ™‚ i hope u did not take me wrong ! I was just describing my experience . there is nothing wrong in extending hands of friendship toward all .. but restrict yourself to people who acknowledge your friendship thereafter. ๐Ÿ™‚
            This I learnt with my expereinces !! ๐Ÿ™‚ Thought I should tell you ๐Ÿ™‚

          3. Harsha

            Yehi dosti yehi pyaar,tune mere blog ko abhi tak follow nahi kya yaar….
            Wah Wah Shayari ban gaye…Follow karo na mere blog ko Please….

          4. My Say

            I follow you anyways dost !! I have had issues with my mailbox.I loose important mails to spam because of lack of space.
            It will get resolved in sometime.I surely will. ๐Ÿ™‚ Anyways , it does not matter.. I open yoursite every day to see what is new ๐Ÿ™‚ still.. if you like it that way my friend .. I will do it the moment my mail issue is resolved.

          1. Harsha

            Glad to know that our comments brings smile oops I mean laugh to your face…Keep Laughing as it is the best medicine I have ever known… ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. My Say

      Well wisdom costs .. and yet is priceless ๐Ÿ˜€ .. I will indeed .. my friend .. first let me learn from the guru on my head only then wisdom I will spread ๐Ÿ˜‰

  4. Pankti Mehta

    Nitesh, finally mystery unravelled. Although I keep on swinging between long and short hair, neither do I have patience nor any other quality that you have gained from your experience. ๐Ÿ™

    1. My Say

      no issues Pankti ..life is a preacher and long hair is just a single medium ๐Ÿ™‚ you have other things to learn from as well ๐Ÿ™‚ Best of Luck !! ๐Ÿ˜‰

        1. My Say

          Pankti..sometimes not learning is the best learning .. for me I have always been a student who never wanted to learn… until I ended up growing hair ๐Ÿ˜€

          1. My Say

            thats the magic you dint need to find or do anything.. lessons will start and by the time you finish the last semester you would know life has completed a session already with u ๐Ÿ™‚ Trust me !

  5. Rekha

    MySay, I wish you could see me at this point in time…it’s a standing ovation. Trust Me! I ain’t lying. You have indeed broken all those barriers and for good reason. I’m definitely make my Bro go thru this wonderful piece. You’ve actually taught a few lessons to me too. Thank you, Guru! ๐Ÿ™‚

    More than your long hair, it’s the thoughts that you’ve shared that’s inspired me.
    Passing on the piece for the betterment of mankind. ๐Ÿ˜€

    1. My Say

      I am overwhelmed , thankful and glad .. its an honour to be complimented that big..
      I wish I were a Guru ๐Ÿ™‚ hehe .. its a great business these days , ain’t it ?
      I am facing the waves of criticisms for I think wisdom charges its share of fee.. ๐Ÿ™‚
      This compliment of yours indeed made my day ! Thanks a ton and more,Rekha ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. Aziz Ampanwala

    With due respect … cheers to the feeling which did not shook under social pressure and evolved like a true hero ….

    Ps. if you think the above lines are too intense for this post .. think again …

    1. My Say

      No bro .. thanks for an intense comment .. I had written it with full intensity.. some of my regular visitors .. took it as my regular humour post ๐Ÿ™ Thanks for understanding ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. aamjunta

    First of all let me tell you – I too have long hair ๐Ÿ™‚ and I enjoy. Make me your guru-bhai ๐Ÿ™‚

    Very nice post and I can see my experience there…

  8. Saru (@SaruSinghal)

    Two thoughts came to my mind after reading this post, totally different and one is bizarre. One is ‘Hair-Karma’ and other one is ‘Baal ki Dhukan,’ remember that Coke commercial. But you know if girls can introspect and learn that much from long hair, life would be so easy. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. My Say

      ๐Ÿ™‚ I am glad the message was rightly delivered .. whatelse ๐Ÿ™‚
      well.. i believe .. jo bhagwan nei diya hai to usko flaunt karne mei koi kharabi nahi .. waise bhi mei angrezon ke saare rules ke khilaaf hun !! ๐Ÿ™‚
      India had .. men with Baal Ki Dukaan pre British and I believe when they are gone better remove their definition of gentlemen ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. Shivani

    I wanted to share this… You growing ur hair and wearing it long was good so far it pleases u and by Gawd u sure have learnt lots.
    U know i have very short hair like boys and when i did away with my tresses it was known as the pageboy cut. i’ve had it for so many years now that i have forgotten my long hair look completely. My reasons were simpler than urs though.
    1) something to keep it simple and tangle+maintenance free.
    2) i would never have a bad hair day.
    But but but i sure do miss wearing that single piece of jewellery i love the most. i don’t know what they call them in English but in Hindi it is called Maangteeka…you know the small chain with a pendant that hangs on the forehead. Somehow it looks pathetic with pageboy cut. Seriously…grow them long or cut them short…The hair does teach us something…all the time.
    Enjoyed ur post and felt like talking…

    1. My Say

      I loved your comment so much ๐Ÿ™‚ thanks for sharing your experience of standing against the waves.. I feel.. its all about lifestyle – my Life my Style! So we are surely the passengers of the same boat ๐Ÿ™‚ Life teaches lessons,the best, only when we travel the less frequented path..for u and me the hair style and length is such a less frequented path ๐Ÿ™‚
      Yes indeed Maangteeka looks best in long hair .. but then everything has pros and cons .. aint it ?
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

      1. InnerDialect

        Hey this is such a great post – its more than about hair and styles – your personality just shines thru = silky straight ! ( I never was able to tame my mane as ppl call it ) the few times I tried salon, it stayed straightened for 5 mins. Then it went back to wild wavy – okayee.. how long is this guru… MySay, post us a pic ?

        1. My Say

          hehe .. forsure .. I will post my deadly looks but just before I decide its time I let go my Guru ๐Ÿ™‚
          Its one heck of a job to maintain long silky clean and clear hair every day .. and so far I have been able to keep my Guru happy ! I want to cut them short once I know the lessons of patience and control on anger and self respect and belief run through my veins and have become a faith ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. My Say

      hehehe..where do we find womankind with tresses,so often ๐Ÿ™‚ Indeed the ones who have are subtle in nature and are inspiration .. the example I can site is my mother ๐Ÿ™‚
      Thank you ma’m for dropping by ma’m and expressing your views.

    1. My Say

      What a moral of the story ๐Ÿ™‚ Loved it !! Indeed combing long hair means .. doing Yoga ๐Ÿ˜€ Jai Ho Indian Woman who still keep tresses ๐Ÿ™‚

  10. indrani

    First of its kind! ๐Ÿ™‚
    I have never read long hair to be a guru. You have learned a lot from this guru and i am glad you passed on some of it to us.

    1. My Say

      hehe true that .. its the determination which they have .. which they actually learn by maintaining long hair over years and years !! ๐Ÿ™‚
      Good things are worth learning from from anyone . Ain’t it Sir ?

  11. Jiggyasa

    kya Baat hai Jack.. ๐Ÿ™‚ aapke guruji kaun sa hair oil use karte hain? Hehe…a very different post than your usual ones..I mean less of doodle speaking this time ๐Ÿ™‚ but I am really amazed how beautifully you have comprehended and have come up with such an innovative post out of a really simple concept..your Long Hair! Kudos!!

    Now would really like to see ya photo and your guruji..apni photo bhi ulpoad karo next time ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜‰

    1. My Say

      Thanks Jiggs !! ๐Ÿ™‚ I appreciate you liked the preaching of my Long Hair .. my Guru ji ๐Ÿ™‚
      When I leave my guruji ( get my hair cut done) before that I will upload me with my guruji on my head ๐Ÿ˜‰ .. i am sure to impress a few of my readers .. ofcourse female ๐Ÿ˜‰ ๐Ÿ˜€

  12. kritibhatnagar

    Now you see…girls with long hair have all these qualities…unless they prefer a messy bun kinda updo like me ๐Ÿ˜›
    What about hair spa anyways?? Since you have decided it all…give your hair a pump with the hair spa! It works wonders, you can have my word on that ๐Ÿ˜€

  13. DeeptiVerma

    Now I know why all the learned men of ancient India had long hairs…. ๐Ÿ˜€ :D….I am showing it to all the aunties out here so that they allow their young grasshoppers to grow the hair…..

  14. namrota

    Aye haye.. what a post.. what a post Jack… Long hair the Guru, who knew eh? ๐Ÿ˜€

    Guess we all learn from every thing that happens around us, to us etc.. we just need to realize it; a forgotten lesson surfaced trhough you ๐Ÿ™‚

    Btw, You rub and comb your wet hair ๐Ÿ˜ฎ
    I shrieked while reading it.. emni korishna baba.. taak hoye jaabe :-/

    1. My Say

      well… I should thank you for thinking on same lines ๐Ÿ™‚ . Long hair mustache and/or beard is ethnic and the definition of true Indian men before being slaves to the East India Company.
      I choose to be ethnic ๐Ÿ™‚ I choose not to be a mental slave to the West anymore.
      Its funny … that Short haircut is considered apt for tropical weather … and coats are considered formal wear in the same weather conditions. ๐Ÿ˜€
      Ok we sweat hence short hair is better but the same does not apply on coats ? ๐Ÿ˜€ I have been to hundreds of business gatherings and weddings and even in the Month of May and June .. the dress code of the gentlemen ๐Ÿ˜‰ of India remains a coat ๐Ÿ˜€
      We are suffering from identity crises … aint we ? hehehe I can write on and on ๐Ÿ˜€ on this .. about the way we are still slaves to what west considers right.

      1. Tales of Curiosity

        We surely are suffering from identity crisis. They attacked our culture, which made us weak and submissive. Replacing hand-loom products with British ones, cotton with polyester , beards with clean shave, gurukuls with english medium schools etc etc. Sad. our culture is strong , we will surely bounce back and become the mighty ‘Bharat’ again. ๐Ÿ™‚

  15. My Say

    I back you on that .. we are a strong culture and bouncing back is on cards and in a decade or two ๐Ÿ™‚ There are so many good things to learn from the West … but we categorically picked up resembling them by looking like them and not thinking like them… the biggest example is work ethics .. I have got ample opportunity to work with Brits and Americans .. who do not believe in working overtime and yet meet deadlines . So do we, but in Indian style … when a few days or weeks of the deadline is left … we work day in and out and finish our projects.JUST ON TIME! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  16. Andrew Lyons

    I totally agree with you. I had grown my hair for a good 1 year and received mixed criticism. Some liked it some didn’t.
    One thing that I realized is that, though I am not attractive but my hair drew a lot of attraction.
    While reading through your post I realized that each and every thing we do teaches us. And it’s not only hair but anything that you do will inspire you.
    Every one has ideas to do something different but either they never begin or they never finish. Odds will always be there when you begin, people around you oppose you, crticise you, call you crazy, but when you succeed the same people follow you. you got to trust yourself blindly to win.
    This is what draws the line between a common man and a hero.
    Thanks for the inspiration!!!

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